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Fathers and Daughters
Fathers, do you have any idea the amount of power you play in your daughter's life?
Your power for the positive or negative is huge.
Daughters want to view their fathers as protectors, providers, leaders,
competent, trustworthy and moral.
DAUGHTERS SEEK APPROVAL
AND ACCEPTANCE FROM THEIR DADS
It is imperative that fathers are setting the example that their daughters so desperately need in order to thrive in life… in all areas; emotionally and socially. A father is the first man a girl has in her life so it's incredibly important that she is able to connect well with him, to be capable of trusting him and see him as strong in good values and decision making. There is certainly no relationship more vital than the one that sets the foundation between father and daughter… as it sets the tone for her relationship with all other men in her life… future husband included if she marries.
Can she trust her father?
Well, that depends… is he making choices that deem him trustworthy? If he's attending church regularly, if he's actively following Christ, if he's leading the family in prayer, if he's taking the time to connect with his children, if he's balancing work with down time, if he's not speeding, not drinking to excess, not lying, etc… if he's making morally sound decisions on a daily basis… she will come to find with time that yes, his actions match his words and he can be trusted. However, if he's practicing road rage, flying off the handle at his family, drinking, cheating, lying, working all the time, being emotionally, verbally and or physically abusive… he will show his daughter bit by bit that he cannot be trusted… that his words are meaningless… that when he speaks everyone might as well drown him out with deaf ears because anything he utters is a lie.
Eventually if he proves over time he is not capable of leadership, of morally sound actions, his daughter will pull away. She won't feel safe. She won't respect him. She will find herself feeling derision toward him each and every time he proves once again he's merely a sham.
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March 2015
names have been omitted in this post
I set my keys and the warm pizza box on the kitchen counter along with an aluminum foil container.
"Grab a fork and an extra plate and I'll split this Fettuccine Alfredo with you, sweet pea." I told my daughter as I grabbed a stack of white napkins from the wicker basket atop the counter.
"Okay!' She said and scampered to the utensil drawer. I quickly began assembling everything we needed on the wood coffee table in the den including two glasses of water. She pulled up a couple ottomans and after we sat down I opened the pizza box.
"Oh, yum! I want pizza too!" She said and I swiftly set a large cheesy slice of pepperoni pizza on her plate beside her pasta. "Thank you for dinner, Mommy." She said and added "And thank you for having them add chicken to the fettuccine. It's way yummier."
"Yeah, it is!" I replied with a grin "You're welcome. I love Joe's Pasta and Pizza." I smiled at her. It was the perfect cozy night at home with her, eating Italian to go and spending time together.
As we talked she said "So… guess what? Daddy… he told me that God is not my Daddy."
I stopped mid-chew and looked at her "What?"
"Yeah… I told Daddy that he's my dad and that God is too. But Daddy told me that God is not my dad, just he is." She told me.
Silence. I was getting pretty fed up with having to clean up the messes he continued to make.
A FATHER IMPACTS HOW A CHILD SEES GOD
A GODLY MAN IS HUMBLE AND KNOWS THAT ULTIMATELY GOD IS IN CHARGE. HE IS A LEADER IN THE HOME FOR CHRIST. HE IS BOTH SERVANT AND WARRIOR FOR GOOD ON EARTH.
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A GODLY MAN IS HUMBLE AND KNOWS THAT ULTIMATELY GOD IS IN CHARGE. HE IS A LEADER IN THE HOME FOR CHRIST. HE IS BOTH SERVANT AND WARRIOR FOR GOOD ON EARTH.
Finally I spoke "That's not true. God is your Daddy… God is our Heavenly Father. If you're a believer you believe God is your dad and he sent his only son Jesus Christ to earth to die for our sins. God was Christ in the flesh. Daddy is your father but he's your earthly father."
She picked the chicken out of her fettuccine eating it first then starting on the pasta. "Oh… so he lied. Again. Why did he tell me that?" She pondered aloud. "I guess if he doesn't think God is my dad then he thinks he isn't his either." She spun fettuccine on her fork "If he doesn't believe God is our father then maybe he doesn't believe in God at all." She said. I watched the pasta swirl on her small fork and I sighed.
"I don't know." I replied then added "But I do know that you have every right to believe in God and what the bible tells you." I told her.
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In John 14:9-10 Jesus said, "Anyone who has seen me has seen the Father. How can you say, ‘Show us the Father’? Don’t you believe that I am in the Father, and that the Father is in me? The words I say to you I do not speak on my own authority. Rather, it is the Father, living in me, who is doing his work."
© gps-gracepowerstrength.blogspot.com ~ 2015
5 Thing's For Father's To Tell Their Daughters:
1. You are wonderfully and fearfully made (Psalm 139:14)
2. You are loved and accepted (Romans 15:7)
3. You are God's daughter (2 Corinthians 6:18)
4. Christ died for you (John 3:16)
5. Forgiveness and grace are for you and others (2 Corinthians 12:9)
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This is a hard topic. Wow! My husband doesn't see how harmful his behavior is. He showers our daughter with money, gifts and freedom. She thinks he is the kindest, smartest, loving and generous man. She has always come before me and our son. I often wonder what this is showing her. I fear because of him that she will never see how a true marriage should be. Her dad put himself, then her before our marriage. I just pray God can heal her and show her what a real father does and His love can surround her. My daughter used to believe in Gob but I am not sure now. Heartbreaking.
ReplyDeleteRobin, I see so many similarities in our situations; my ex does the same buying of stuff, very frustrating when the priorities aren't in the best interest of the children. I hope as well your daughter sees the truth... yes, he's generous but for a manipulative reason. My heart hurts for you.
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