tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2266837281211217618.post3616626619603679982..comments2023-04-11T07:41:19.630-07:00Comments on GPS-Grace Power Strength: Divorce: 6 Things To Never Tell Your ChildrenGPS-gracepowerstrength.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13986848807336161254noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2266837281211217618.post-57840712679313139672015-02-18T06:56:28.195-08:002015-02-18T06:56:28.195-08:00It's frustrating hearing that same tired line ...It's frustrating hearing that same tired line from these types that the ex has moved on and one hasn't, it's such a ruse to side step addressing the valid issues going on. Ugh. Is there any way you can get a new therapist for your son? <br /><br />My experience is so similar, my ex has hired a therapist who I wasn't in favor of because I knew she was too young and inexperienced. But my attorney kept saying she was good and ex kept pushing so I told them I'd give her a chance. Sure enough, it wasn't but after a few appts (2-3) she says she doesn't believe she can reconcile my son and I, that he's too set in his mind and maybe if we had come in earlier. I pulled out and now I'm going to have to file a modification because ex refuses to let me take the kids elsewhere since we have a signed mediation agreement. The therapist is not experienced enough (like yours) and I can't see that she even sees exes behavior as toxic and immoral. An ad Litem might help... it's so hard watching our children suffer and yet they may not speak up when they need to. It is tiring, sending thoughts & prayers of strength & comfort. GPS-gracepowerstrength.blogspot.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13986848807336161254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2266837281211217618.post-80842826509119589552015-02-18T06:26:25.601-08:002015-02-18T06:26:25.601-08:00My son is afraid of his dad and so are most people...My son is afraid of his dad and so are most people. If my son doesn't do things his dads way or favors him then he starts taking things from him. He will take his car, a gift from both of us, money and phone. My husband is fighting the need for a guardian adlitim and is fighting our son meeting with the judge. The therapist is "team" dad as well. He manipulates so well. My therapist is in the same office and they have spoken but mine has dealt with these cases for 25 years where as my sons is new to this. Sigh. So his therapist told me to respect my sons wishes and stay away. He wants to be in the family home, which I was ejected from, and his dad is there so he needs that security. I have joint legal custody but dads team think I am crazy and my almost 17 year old won't fight. This poor kid is being alienated from me. So I am keeping my distance until the judge makes my ex mind. His goal is to have both kids hate me so he can move the girlfriend in. However, I refuse to sign over house and all assets so he can go on with life and leave me penniless. We are not even close to being divorced and my sons therapist said " it would be good if you would move on like your husband has"! I told her he lacks a Godly and moral compass and will not move on so he can continue showing our kids adultry is acceptable. I refuse to give up my morals and principles. This is so tiring.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05450861906436486166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2266837281211217618.post-29041139001736605022015-02-17T13:58:55.408-08:002015-02-17T13:58:55.408-08:00Does your son want to be with you full time? Or mo...Does your son want to be with you full time? Or more time? At his age I would think he would have some input with a judge. It differs from state to state though. My go-to on these types of conversations with my daughter is "You can talk to me about what is going on over there if it's bothering you. I will listen." My daughter tells me anything that goes on at dads that bothers her, she's open about it. I want her to know that I will listen even if I may not be able to comment. The therapists I've worked with have told me a good thing to ask her is "How does that make you feel?" "Does that make you angry? Sad?" My daughter also journals. What is your sons therapist thinking about this? I mean, the fact your ex is so blatant with the "...because she is not abusive like mom" part shows complete and utter lack of respect, boundaries and alienation. I'm hoping the therapist sees that. GPS-gracepowerstrength.blogspot.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13986848807336161254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2266837281211217618.post-86465037787272268322015-02-17T09:23:46.834-08:002015-02-17T09:23:46.834-08:00As my divorce is heating up I see how all of this ...As my divorce is heating up I see how all of this has come about. My "ex" told our kids that he NEEDS his girlfriend because she makes him feel good, needs companionship and needs her because she is not abusive like mom. Sigh. When I tell my son to please share that with his therapist and not me he gets upset. He also gets upset because I have mentioned to him that what goes on at dads house stays there just as it should at our house. He is almost 17 so it isn't like I need to monitor all things. How do you handle these things?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05450861906436486166noreply@blogger.com